Set aside twenty minutes, put the phones away and take turns answering. This is a conversation to understand each other, not a performance review with a winner.
Begin with what was good
1. When did you feel most supported by me? 2. What made us laugh this year? 3. Which small habit helped us feel close? Give specific examples rather than general ratings.
Notice what felt heavy
4. What responsibility felt uneven? 5. When did you feel unheard? 6. What money conversation have we postponed? Listen first. Ask whether your partner wants understanding, ideas or a practical change.
Make room for connection
7. When do our phones get in the way? 8. What kind of affection would you like more of? 9. What low-cost date would feel enjoyable right now? Agree on something realistic for your current season.
Choose the next step
10. What should we keep doing? 11. What should we stop doing? 12. What one promise can each of us follow through on this month? Write the actions down and choose a check-in date.
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